Like many in the property communities, I am a huge fan of Darren Hardy’s content (referred to hereafter as DH). I don’t miss a day of his short mentoring videos and I really take the time to absorb and apply the lessons that will help in running and growing our property businesses.
In one of his videos this week he focused on resilience and it resonated so strongly that I felt compelled to share the essence of that message as it relates to property.
So, DH was using the metaphor of a tennis ball to illustrate how in life we get smacked around like a tennis ball, and he broke this metaphor down into 4 phases which I thought were extremely helpful to relate to our property journeys. Use your awareness of these 4 phases to build your resilience in your property business.
#1: THE FALL
This first part of the metaphor relates to a setback of some sort, and we all get plenty of these. So in our property journeys this might relate to something like the following:
-you spend ages carrying out diligence on a potential deal only for your offer to be rejected
OR
-you start to realise that the the prospect of your desired hopeful outcome for a property maybe won’t actually come to fruition
#2: THE IMPACT
In this phase DH describes how hitting the hard ground bends the ball out of shape (ie hitting the proverbial bottom bends you out of shape). He goes on to say that ‘either you let it absorb you or YOU absorb it and use it to improve you. Whilst painful in the moment it is the smack of the impact that focuses the mind and musters up the fight in you to become the next version of you.’
So back to your property journey this could be something that in the moment feels like you’ve hit rock bottom and how you choose to respond next determines everything. For example:
-Something crucial to your business running successfully knocks you on your backside ie it could be a paying client choosing someone else over you, a team member leaving or something similar
OR
-Your worst fears become a reality- you thought that ‘if you build it they will come’, so you built it and no one came.
[Note, these ‘FALL’ and ‘IMPACT’ examples I’m offering up are all real things that we have experienced. Our worst fears with our first R2R SA business did become a reality in that we quickly set up 4 SA units and within 6 months we’d created a cash hungry beast of a small business that was paying everyone else but us, it was actually costing us a lot of money. ]
DH went on to explain that the pain of impact is what creates the energetic force to launch you in the opposite and positive direction – if you choose to see it that way.
In other words you could choose to let the situation absorb you, or you could decide to act with resolve….that enough is enough and that going forwards you will commit to find a better way.
#3: RESTORATION
DH explains how in this 3rd phase ‘the ball starts to regain it’s shape ie you realise that ‘your identity is not defined in the fall, it’s defined in your ability to rebound’
In other words this is where your choice in how you respond means everything, it’s where ‘you stop mourning about where you once were and start focusing on where you want to go’.
-So in the example of losing a key client or a key member of your business, instead of throwing in the towel, it’s about facing up to the deep work of figuring out where did you go wrong, and asking how can I do things differently to avoid this in the future and actually do things better?
#4: ELEVATION
This 4th phase is where you rise higher than where you were before, because of the bounce ie had you not hit the ground like the metaphorical tennis ball, you would never have figured out how to be better.
So back on the property examples I’ve referenced:
-you’ve figured out that the antidote to feeling down when an offer is reflected, is to put more focus on increasing your deal flow
-after taking a ‘guess and hope’ approach you realise the importance of figuring out multiple exits in advance
-in the case of a key client or team member derailing your business you realise the importance of not being 100% reliant on 1 client and on having additional processes and people in place to maintain continuity in your business
-and to finish with our example of creating a R2R business that was losing money, the elevation was born out of that painful experience – we made the decision not to guess again, and instead to bake much more certainty into our SA business by finding the demand first, and only then go find the property to serve that demand.
In closing, where can you look at your own falls (past or present) as an opportunity to bounce back higher?